Sunday, April 01, 2007

Moed Kattan 23b - Aveilus and Aninus

Tosafos discusses the difference between aveilus (post burial) and aninus (pre burial). During Aninus one is forbidden to eat meat and drink wine, and is prohibited in marital relations as apparent from the gemara. During Aveilus one must not wear shoes, and must perform atifas harosh, and turning over the beds (Re: Washing Clothes and cutting hair tosafos assumes that it is assur by both - What would Tosafos would say about bathing during aninus?)
What is the reason for the difference?
Tosafos explains that expression of "aveilus" which presumably mean methods of expressing sadness apply only during aveilus, but aninus is more along the lines of distracting one from showing the proper kavod to the meis and from performing the mitzvah of kevurah. One would think that aninus is more of a din in kavod for the meis, whereas aveilus is an true expression of sadness. However, Rashi in Succah 25a seems to assume that aveilus is also only for the purpose of showing kavod for the meis. Although they are both ways of showing kavod, the needs are different. During Aninus the kavod is to be involved actively, but during aveilus the kavod is to express sorrow.

1 comment:

Yossie Schonkopf said...

reb avi,
you are around the "hood" and i still need to check the blog to hear a vort...
the source that aveilus is primary for the honor of the "meis" i think is from the gemara that if one dies and has no relatives 10 people sit in his house. the rambam says that one who doesn't practice aveilus is cruel.
this i find is a big misconception as people mostly think that shiva is for the living and is therapeutic and therefor take it lightly when the situation is not a sad one. in truth we are sympathizing with the transition the meis is going thru which is painful for the soul.
in light of that i too was struggling to find the "geder" of the difference between the onen and aveil, for if both are for appeasing the soul in its transition why the difference. it would seem that until burial the soul is just hanging in there and the real change starts after burial. that is why the main concentration before burial is to get to the burial.